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Body Image

Body Image: Mirror, Mirror

How you see yourself matters just as much as how you eat or exercise. If you're unhappy with your body, don't waste energy on self-loathing—take action. Think of all the time you've spent feeling down about your body. Now imagine putting that same time and effort into working out and eating right. Once you start taking control, your confidence will grow, and so will your happiness. Feeling good about yourself is priceless, and having an achievable goal—like being healthy and having a body you're proud of—can help boost your mood. Instead of thinking, "I'm fat and sad," think, "I'm going to feel great when I reach my goal!" Remember, you have the power to change your life anytime you choose. With each step, you'll lose weight, feel better, and that inner non-fat person will shine through.

Realistic Expectations

Before you set any goals, it's important to have a clear understanding of what you really want to achieve. Don’t let yourself be influenced by someone else’s expectations. Models, trainers, and actors are often required to maintain specific looks for their jobs—they get paid to look that way. Your goal should be to feel and look better for you, not to look like someone who gets paid to be fit. Your personal best might not involve looking like a fitness model—and that’s okay. Whether you’re looking to get lean or just stay a little curvy while staying healthy, the goal is to feel good and be happy in your own skin.

This isn’t about perfection, but about potential. This guide isn’t written for everyone to become a size zero or get rock-hard abs. It’s about helping you realize that you can control your health and weight, and create lasting changes that fit your life. It’s about consistency and health over temporary fixes or aesthetic obsession.

Body Image Advice

  • Spend time in front of the mirror. Yes, seriously! A couple of times a week, take about 30 minutes to stretch, balance, and observe yourself in the mirror. Watch your posture, your facial expressions, and how you move. Becoming aware of how you carry yourself builds confidence. Practice smiling or speaking like someone you admire from TV. Believe it or not, paying attention to how you present yourself—your walk, talk, and posture—makes a big difference in how confident and attractive you feel.

  • Take pictures. It’s not vain—it’s motivating! Document your progress by taking photos in the same spot, with the same clothes, or even without, every couple of weeks. As the weeks go by, you’ll be able to see tangible results that you might not notice day-to-day. The visual progress can keep you going. And don't forget to take those before pictures, because once you start seeing improvements, you'll want to remember where you began.

  • Your face will improve too. Losing weight won’t just improve your body—it’ll also enhance your facial features. A more defined jawline, clearer skin, and a fresher appearance are common benefits of a healthy diet and regular exercise. You'll start to receive compliments about your appearance, and that alone can give you a huge confidence boost.

Focus on Health, Not Numbers

Don't obsess over the scale. Your weight is just a number—it doesn’t reflect your fitness, your health, or your happiness. Use it only as a reference to measure progress but don’t fixate on it. Instead, focus on how you look and how you feel. Remember, muscle weighs more than fat, so gaining a little weight after eating right and working out could actually be a sign that you’re building muscle and losing fat.

It’s much more helpful to pay attention to your body fat percentage. For women, a healthy range is around 15-20%, while for men it’s 10-15%. You want to feel and look good—not stress out about hitting a specific weight. Weigh yourself sparingly, perhaps once every other week, but prioritize how you look and feel rather than chasing a specific number.

Also, the goal isn’t to be "skinny" or "thin." It's about looking good—which is subjective but means being healthy, fit, and confident. Avoid getting trapped in an unhealthy pursuit of being ultra-thin, as that can lead to problems. There’s a balance to be found where you’ll look and feel your best, so strive for that, not a number on a scale.

Plastic Surgery

Some people believe that surgery is the easy way out—why work out when you can just get fat sucked out? The reality is that plastic surgery doesn't address the core issue. It’s not a solution for health, fitness, or long-term weight control. Losing weight naturally through diet and exercise is not only healthier, but also much safer and more sustainable. Surgery doesn’t improve your internal health, and it often comes with risks and complications.

I’m not against plastic surgery entirely—in fact, I’m all for it if it’s done for the right reasons. But surgery should be a last resort, after you’ve tried eating right and working out. If you think, "I've tried everything; I need liposuction," stop and ask yourself, "Have I really tried everything?" If you can still lose weight through self-discipline, avoid surgery and keep pushing forward. Liposuction is best for people who are already close to their goal and have a stubborn layer of fat that won’t go away, but even that comes with risks. Some people end up with uneven or lumpy results, so weigh your options carefully.

As for procedures like stomach stapling, I’m strongly against it. If you’re physically capable of eating the amount of food that someone with stapled stomachs would eat, why get the surgery in the first place? Surgery like this should be a last-ditch effort, not a shortcut to avoid self-discipline.

On breast augmentation or other elective surgeries, it’s simple: do it for you and no one else. If you’ve thought it through and it’ll make you happier, then go for it. Just make sure to go to the best surgeon you can find—never go cheap on your body.

Summing Up

The goal isn’t just to lose weight—it’s to feel great, be healthy, and love the body you’re in. Body image is personal, and your journey should be about achieving the best version of you, not someone else. Take it slow, be consistent, and remember to celebrate your victories, no matter how small. You’re in control of your health, your image, and your happiness. Stay motivated, be patient, and keep pushing forward—your body and mind will thank you for it.